Projecting

I am a part of these 20-somethings women's support group. We meet once a month to discuss any sort of issues or concerns we may have going on in our life. It's really a time to sit and share, it has really helped me realize that I am not alone. It seems there are many other women out there who are the same boat as I me.
One interesting thing we discussed tonight was the theory of projecting. The idea is that things we hate in certain people are really traits that we also hold within ourselves.
I was sceptical so I offered an example to see if the theory holds true for my life, it does! Take my Boss for example, she drives me nuts! The main reasons are she's too controlling and must be the center of attention. Everything she has going on is planned out and has been scrutinized frontward and backward to make sure nothing has been looked over and in any social situation she talks over people and has to tell too many stories and details about her life. Upon first glance that's nothing like me. I'm a very laid back person, very self-assured, but dig a little deeper and tonight I realized that as laid back as I'd like to appear what bothers me about her is that everything she's planned and telling me about, I've already thought of and accounted for, I'm just annoyed to find that I've already over thought all those details. As for the talking and constant battle to prove herself, I do that in a different fashion. I'm a pleaser, rather than striving to fit in by sharing too many details with people I do everything I can to make sure they like me, I'm not as self-assured as I thought I was if I'm hung up on pleasing everyone all the time.
It's just interesting to think about. And I know now that I see these things in myself it will make it easier for me to like her because now we have some sort of connection, I have something to relate with.
Too bad tomorrow is her last day...